I Learned Something Yesterday – My Own Christmas Carol

Lately I have been feeling blue about the short days, the economy and I think I am watching too much NEWS! The stock market is down, unemployment and crime is up, the list goes on.

The holidays are to be such a joyful time, yet I always feel somewhat depressed about them. This year my brother and his family join us – the first time in 13 years and tho I am excited, I still am feeling the pressures around me. Recently, something changed my outlook… at least for a while.

I went to a funeral yesterday. 3 days before Christmas. It was for a woman, (58 years old). Her name is Deb and I knew her years ago. Her husband, brother-in-law and I trained dogs together. I went to the service specifically, because her sister is also a dear friend of mine. (Sounds all tangled up, one of those 6 degrees of separation things, I guess.)

For 29 years, this woman fought a battle with MS and even when she was admitted to a hospice facility, her body still wanted to fight the fight, but finally her tank was empty and she slipped away.

Now that part is the sad part, but here is the part where I learned something-perhaps “Ebeneezer” (and Deb) were watching over me!

The service was a Catholic Mass, to which I am unaccustomed and wasn’t actually clear on what was coming next. During the service, a good friend of Deb’s delivered thoughts and shared experiences from their long friendship. Of course it made us all cry, though none of us were there to share in those times, personally, I connected on my own.

I have a circle of friends and I could identify with her friends’ feelings. I could place myself within her warm words of memory with one or many of my close friends & family. I could feel how very special those times experiences in my life that I have shared with my friends and are so grateful to them for being part of my life. If any of them are reading this, know that you have made a difference to me and my life would not have been as full without you in it. Thank you to all my dear friends & family, those far and wide for making my life a special journey with laughs, hugs and moments to grin about even when things can seem like they aren’t going my way!

I know this the title of this blog is “Techno Trapped In my 40’s” and this REALLY isn’t advice about technology challenges, but in a way it is.

Don’t let the “Technology Scrooge” get in the way of what is valuable. TURN OFF THE NOISE IN YOUR LIFE and look around – get real (sorry Dr. Phil), stop and think what is meaningful for the long haul.

Christmas (or whatever you own brand of holiday celebration may be) needs to remind us about family, friends and the real things that are important. Cherish these times, cherish each other.

And make a toast “To Absent Friends.”
(Thanks Deb for the reminder.)

5 thoughts on “I Learned Something Yesterday – My Own Christmas Carol

  1. Thnks Kelly
    I am about to be visited by my own ghost of Xmas future. You are so so right. I am going to call my mom and dad more than once this week. I should really have planned to have been there this year. I hope I can be more forward thinking next year if it’s not too late.

    Enjoy your family

  2. Wonderfully put, Kelly! If everyone’s hearts were as big as yours, the world would be a much better place. Love ya! Merry Christmas – Paul

  3. Thanks Kelly. We all get caught up in our own daily grind and tend to lose sight of the important people in our lives. I try to say ” I love you” to those people in my life as frequently as I can. I know that each time I use those words it could be the last time that I see them or they see me. Life is short. Thanks for putting me on your “important” list. I love you.

    Father Tom

  4. Thanks all – as Father Tom put it so well – Remember it costs nothing to put people on your “IMPORTANT LIST” and your life is more full because you have taken one second to tell them so. XXOX

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